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Raising up Pastors, within our Local Church
"Just because we’ve been pastors for many years, that doesn’t mean we were any more “Called” back then, than any young man today. In our local church, have we recognized, trained and appointed men who are young? Do we have pastors under 35 years of age in our own church?"
The following are my remarks from our 2015 GCC Pastors Conference.
A Young Woman and Tom Gordon
But one thing I knew. I was done. I couldn’t stand it any longer. I literally felt like I was at the end of my rope. I couldn’t stop the tears. I hated where I was living. I felt like I was drowning. And I was done trying to fight. The last night I laid awake all night, preparing myself to leave for home in the morning, even though I was supposed to go back to school.
Blessed to Live Forever in God's New World
This is the transcript of my message from Faithwalkers/Omaha 2011:
"Tonight my prayer is that you will relax and smile as we think about our
evening’s topic. My prayer is that these verses and thoughts would wash right over your heart. Your response and my response,
is simply to believe. “This is the work of God, that you believe . . .” I want to give you 5 Reasons on why you should take
time and think about Heaven on a regular basis."
A Heart to See Lives Change
Here is my outline from this year's Faithwalkers '09 in Omaha.
We talked about developing a compassionate heart for the lost.
And we spent some time talking about 5 things that can deaden or weaken our
compassion for the lost.
This Legacy of Leaders
If you desire to be used by God as a servant/leader in His church, then
you need some side-boards on just what will be expected of you. One way you can gain these side-boards, is to understand what
your leaders are looking for in future leaders.
82 pastors have written and shared their heart on, "What makes for a good
leader?" These pastors vary greatly in age. They live in 17 states. Some have been pastors for almost 40 years. Others have
just finished their first 4 months on the wall. Most are bi-vocational.
These are my brothers. This is their heart. This is how we define leadership.
If their heart challenges you, so be it. If their heart troubles you, so be it. If their heart corrects you, great! I trust that
their words strongly encourage you.
Just know that our heart is to enlist you in this great Cause.
An impact player knows that humility is the path to greatness!
"Some of you are still not sure this morning. You have heard a lot, but you
are still debating. You're thinking, "I wonder if I can still love this world and still be an okay Christian?" You can't! This
last teaching will force you to choose.
It's not how right you feel, how devout, or how good. It's not about the
weaknesses in your life, the sin, the ways you disappoint yourself and God. It's really not about you Christian. It's about God
and what He wants to do through your life. God wants to help you choose His way, again, here at the end of this conference. This
last session is on Humility."
This is how we opened up our last message at the December 2007, Faithwalkers
conference. This article is the transcript of what we shared. God bless you, dear Christian.
The Heart Challenges of Training a Great Commission Family
This is the talk I gave on the last night of our pastor's conference.
Our conference theme this year was The Joys and Trials of a Great Commission Family - Lessons Along the Way.
Because of the nature of some of the issues we were addressing - we decided
not to record this year's conference. But here is the transcript of what I tried to communicate. If you read it, you will notice
that I had all seven of my children contribute, but their messages are not here.
Instead article # 142 captures a lot of what they tried to share that
God bless you as you train your children, men.
We Are Losing Our Children!
"We are losing our children. Research indicates that 70% of teens who are
involved in a church youth group will stop attending church within two years of their high school graduation. Think about that
statement. It addresses only teenagers who attend church and participate in the youth group. What does that suggest about those
teens who may attend church but do not take part in the youth group, or who do not go to church at all?
In a talk at Southwestern Seminary Josh McDowell noted that less than 1/3 of
today's youth attend church. If he is right and 67% do not go to church and then we lose 70% of those who do, that means that
within two years of finishing high school only 10% of young Americans will attend church.
We are losing our youth."
Preparing Your Teen in High School for the Day They Graduate!
“Good parents give their children two things: one is roots, the other is
Hodding Carter, a journalist, said this. But what about those roots and what
about giving them their wings?
I asked each of my seven children to write a paragraph or two on what we could
have done better and what we might have gotten right, in releasing them out of high school.
Here are their thoughts.
When You Wonder If They Will Make It On Their Own?
I am still not sure why you let me move away from home. I am convinced that I was
the most un-aware child that you ever raised. I still look back on how I thought things out, failed to look ahead, planned ahead, or
did not. And I wonder how I made it as far as I have. But God worked out housing, school, and a job - and in those aspects I was
But nothing could have prepared me for the loneliness that I felt...
Our Plans for 3 HSLT's in the Summer of 2008
In all my
travels, and whenever I thought of next summer's HSLT 2008, I have
had one concern. One thing that I have prayed about, over and
That God would
encourage many fathers to believe that they could lead their own
edition of a summer HSLT - right in their own backyards. That we
could multiply our locations.
I wrote a few
times to some men and got on the phone a few times and I am tickled
now to share that Next summer we will be doing 3 HSLT's! This is
our plan . . .
The War Against Your Soul
- Worldliness: What is it? How do you
How do you
write a paper on worldliness? I have procrastinated for a long time
in writing this one. Why? Because no one wakes up in the morning
wanting to read about worldliness. Or think about how worldly they
might be. Or how worldly they might have become, without
It is an
unpleasant subject to dwell on.
convicts us. And conviction stops us and causes us to reflect and
search our heart and look at our life. When a Christian is asked to
think about whether he has become worldly, often he resists and is
defensive. We do not appreciate the question, nor the questioner.
As I said,
worldliness is an unpleasant topic.
Doing What it Takes to Raise Sons and Daughters Who Walk
statistical research produced by LifeWay, Southern Baptists are
waking up to the reality that we are not passing down the Christian
faith to our children and grandchildren. Almost 90% of teens who
profess Christ in an evangelical church will walk away from
Christianity by the end of their freshman year of college.
Do we need a
complete overhaul on how we do youth work in our churches? The
author of this brief article argues for it. And when I say “argue”,
what I mean is that he persuades, pleads, and preaches this message
with the passion of a prophet. You will either love or despise his
message, but you will not walk away apathetic to his concerns and
Final Wrap-Up HSLT Colorado 2007
"Not so with
you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your
servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For
even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to
give His life as a ransom for many."
- Mark 10:43-45
Thank you all,
once again, for taking time out of your busy summer schedules to
lead your youth to last week's HSLT Colorado 2007.
leading up to this conference was that there would be "Much
searching of heart" - among all of us. I believe He answered.
I believe God helped.
I did teach
quite a bit for a couple reasons. In years past, I have usually
only taught one session. But this year I wanted to lay out what I
think needs to be addressed, in one way or another, at every HSLT we
Don't Suffer the Little Children
an author and columnist, offers humor and insight on the inherent
nature of all children - and all adults, for that matter. This is
from his opening:
mothers and fathers stubbornly cling to the utopian beliefs of their
childless years, the vision of humans as inherently sinful and
selfish resonates with many of us who are parents. Nobody who's
stood between a toddler and the last cookie should still harbor a
belief in the inherent virtue of mankind. An afternoon at the
playground is apt to make one toss out the idealist Rousseau ("man
is a compassionate and sensible being") in favor of the more
realistic Hobbes ("all mankind [is in] a perpetual and restless
desire for power").
Research Shows that our
Parenting Approach is Crucial
has released a new book on a familiar topic, based on an unusual
research study that indicates that there are six critical dimensions
involved in raising children to become spiritual champions.
article by George Barna, I have included a little, back and forth,
email correspondence between Mark Darling and Steve Nelson. The
topic is intentional parenting.
Barna’s book is a good one, but I thought it amusing. Barna says
it, and so the Christian world takes note. We have been doing it,
and few notice. But thank God there is One who does.
HSLT Colorado 2006
could use a shot in the arm. If you would appreciate some
encouragement. Do you want a faith lift? Read some
of the feedback we got from the youth and parents right on the
heels of this year's High Scholl Leadership Training [HSLT]
Colorado. It will bless your spiritual socks off!
"He first found us. We then found
our true purpose for living. His purpose. We would drop all
of our individual dreams and embrace His. And we would
make life choices that reflected this. And we chose to stay
together in this purpose that God had
I need to repeat. We chose to
do all this together, as a company of
men and women organized within His Church.
is like a coin, you can spend it any way you wish, but you can
spend it only once.” We decided to spend our lives for the
advancement of our Lord’s kingdom on this earth and the spread
of His gospel.
And we knew
that His method to get out this message was through His local
church. So that’s where we decided to invest."
Are You Ready to Get Married?
marriage is in the cards. I want to talk to all you singles on the
topic of “Preparing for your future family.”
raising a godly family will prove to be an incredible challenge for
each of you. It will demand your very best effort.
It’s also incredibly
rewarding. Thirty years ago, the leadership of this movement had no
idea what a boon and what a blessing our marriages and our families
would some day become.
It all worked
out. It all came true. Beyond our wildest dreams."
God's Plan For Your
All of us need
personal roadmaps, guideposts when we first start to follow our
Savior. New believers need a starting point for their spiritual
What follows is
the roadmap God gave us thirty years ago, when we were first getting
going. We were desperate to have a plan, a method. And we were
looking for a plan - from God Himself.
If He showed us
a way to understand the New Testament, we promised each other and
our Savior that we would follow it and do it together - for the rest
of our lives.
We wanted to
follow God and make disciples. We were searching for direction that
would be true for all of us and each of us. And the answers we were
looking for welded us together as a movement of men and women and
should I be to my local church? What does Jesus Christ expect of me?
I have said this many, many
times, and I firmly believe, that one of the keys to raising a
strong family is to be committed - lock, stock and barrel - to a
local church. To find a place where you, your wife and your
children can "plant your flag and die".
Serving and building, year after
year, in the community of a local church teaches your sons and
daughters what this Christian life is really all about. Do not
think you can raise quality offspring apart from your local
Getting Ready to Hear
our sons and daughters to attend strategic, Christian
conferences, while they are still in High School, can accomplish
amazing things! Hearts will be deeply shaken. Spirits can be
corrected and energized. Lives are often redirected - for the
choices can become incredibly focused and noble, as a result of
attending a teen, youth conference.
the most important element - is what goes on before they even
go to the conference.
have they prepared their hearts?
following are excerpts, taken from ten weeks worth of letters,
leading up to our annual HSLT Colorado
Conferences Can Help Build True Character
years we have done a week-long, High School, teen conference in
Colorado, in July. HSLT Colorado !
It has grown every year and this
year may have been our best.
When teenagers are away from
their routines and locked into teaching, service and witnessing
for almost a week - amazing things can be accomplished.
This article is a "wrap-up"
that I sent to all the leaders and parents after this year's
edition. I think you will easily understand what we are trying
to do with these HSLT's, as you read the letter.
2nd Timothy and Loyalty
We don't "do
loyalty" very well in this country. We sure aren't that loyal to
our work. We often don't care about our neighbors or
our neighborhood. We switch allegiance on sports teams all the
time. We are not that loyal in our marriages. Not as a country.
And we definitely are not that
loyal to one another in our churches. But Christian husbands and
fathers need to display loyalty to our families. Our kids need to
learn it from us.
This is my message to the pastors
of our churches, at our annual conference. My overhead slides
are noted in red. If you would like to hear an audio of this
message, just email me.
Beginning in the Home
Barb McCotter, wife of Jim McCotter,
and mother of seven children, wrote the following article. These two
dear Christians were both very involved in the Great Commission
movement of churches, in the early days.
We owe them a
debt of gratitude – not only for their lives and example, but for
their great service, words and instruction. I think you will enjoy
this article by Barb, lifted from an old issue of “the Cause,” a
magazine that we used to publish for our people in the 1980’s.
In it Barb talks
about training her children.
Worldly Are We?
The following was put together by
the pastors of Covenant Life, a church out of Gaithersburg,
Maryland. We knew some of these guys when we were there in Maryland
and we appreciated their example. I believe J. Harris, C. J. and
Bob Kauflin are a couple of their current pastors. This church
practices plurality and what these elders have put together in this
doc is very sobering and challenging.
May we all be very careful and very
diligent to not drift and wind up loving this world and the things
in it. And if we need to change some things in our lives – let’s
get after it!
Concerning Relationships between Men and Women For Those Who are
This is an indepth article on men and women. John Meyer has done
an excellent job and he begins his paper with the following words.
1977, as a freshman in college, I became a Christian through members
of what is now the Great Commission Association. My salvation and
discipleship through that body of believers stamped my life with
several convictions that were truly life-changing. One that had
great impact on my years of singlehood
came from seeing a Biblical pattern of relationship for men and
women working together for God’s purpose. Though not often
specifically taught, it was lived as a natural outflow of a life
committed to the Great Commission. . . . I believe I experienced a
fellowship of the saints that many young Christians never discover.
That experience has become one of the treasures of my life."
The Dating Game
A good friend
and fellow dad, put together this excellent article on recreational
dating. Perry Paulding has worked for 25 years with college campus
ministry and knows that finding a mate remains the dominant concern
of young adults. But we go about it all wrong here
in America. Perry has ten good points to chew on and I think his
will be used in many, many circles.
Bridging the Generation Gap
Here are some
"cliff notes" from an excellent book I have been reading by
C.S. Lewis wrote in The Problem of Pain,
“I take a very low view of climates of
opinion. In his own subject every man knows that all discoveries
are made and all errors corrected by those who ignore the climate of
DeVries ignores our current climate
of opinion where we have segmented our youth away from parents - and
instead looks at how we
can bring them back together.
Here is an example of what he writes:
"We can find the primary cause
of the current crisis in
youth ministry in the ways that our culture and our churches have
systematically isolated young people from the very relation- ships
that are most likely to lead them to maturity."
bridge the gap between our generations!
It's a Victory for People
Lord," Cary Leslie is saying for the sixth time since waking up at
3:45 a.m. to go to work. He has prayed for strength not to hit the
snooze button on the alarm clock. He has prayed for a safe day for
his wife and three children. He has prayed for patience with the
foul-tempered customers he deals with at the car-rental counter. He
has prayed for a job that will pay enough for a struggling family of
five to keep up with the bills. And now, with the election decided,
he is thanking God for listening to his prayers.
A Game Plan for Starting a Dad's Led Teen Ministry
Here are eighteen straight-forward
articles from our website. They are all focused on dads leading out with our youth, in
the local church. They are all aimed at the heart. And we try to cover a number of practical
questions and answers. These articles talk about dads envisioning, challenging, training - and
then confidently releasing, our teens. What we are writing about in these articles has worked!
And this kind of ministry is increasing, all across our GCC movement.
Biblical Values for
movement, we desire churches that are having a powerful effect
the gospel. And we desire that the teens in our churches and our
communities be passionate for Jesus Christ. To accomplish this,
we need strong elders, strong parents (and strong fathers in
particular) and strong young workers, serving Christ together in a
way where each respects and supports the other. As this is done,
God will continue to raise up Great Commission churches and
families that are truly exhibiting “New Testatment Christianity in
At times do we think of the home
as just a good place for babies, but that real action occurs
outside its walls? This brief anthem, written by Charlie
Meyer, will correct our thinking.
As you read it, think of the
"voice-over" of a major motion picture, such as the narrator from
The Lord of the Rings.
Our homes are where - "a
shining knight valiantly gives his life for his lady. Not in one
solitary romantic urge, but battling inch by inch, in a dazzling
display of life-long self sacrifice."
Is this how we think of our
He is remembered as one of the most
influential men of his day—a man celebrated for his wit, humor, and
great political achievements. But it was his approach to his family
that got the attention of the British public.
William Wilberforce is remembered
as the Christian leader and parliamentarian most responsible for
ending the British slave trade and for reforming the morals of
But to the people of his own
generation, he was the man who changed the way the British viewed
their role as parents. He’s an example of the priorities every
father—even busy political fathers—ought to have.
This reprint of
a Moody magazine article by John Thomas from over twenty
years ago is not just sobering. It frightens. And will cause
everyone of us men to pause, and think quite carefully about the
people that we love.
Just Not in Charge
In tens of
thousands of evangelical churches it is the accepted norm, when a
young man says that he would like to help out with the local youth,
to buy him a subscription to Youthworker magazine, and wish
For almost 40 years youth work in
many Bible churches has been handled, by and large, by the eager 23
year old. And parents sat back
and hoped for the best.
But now, those same thousands of
youth workers and Youthworker magazine itself are questioning
this whole approach. They are recognizing that we need the
intentional involvement of fathers and dads.
The Hound of
This is one of my
favorite pieces of poetry. If you do not yet know the Lord as your
personal Savior, these verses will unnerve you. If you are angry,
sullen or vexed with God, these words will humble you. If you are
tempted to resist, this poem will cause you to pause. And if you
have a son or daughter who is a prodigal, this classic piece will
deeply encourage you.
Why Dad's Led Teen Ministry Succeeds
care how young a father might be in the Lord. Remember my story
of the dad who shared his desire to baptize his twelve-year-old, twin
sons? And how he recognized that he first needed to get saved and
baptized himself ! His follow-up question was heart-felt. After
first telling him, "Of course you can get saved. And you may
be baptized." And "Of course, you
can baptize your sons."
then looked me in the eye and started crying and he said, "Am
I too late, Rick? Have I waited too long to save these boys? And
look at me. I am just getting started myself." He whispered,
"Can I make this work?"
him right back in the eye and said, "Yes,
you can, partner! Don't you ever doubt it! You are now on the right
track. You can win with those boys. You believe me!"
New Testament Families /
New Testament Men
In June of 2004 I spoke to the pastors of our movement at our
annual conference on what God expects of us as fathers. How we
to lose with this next generation. How we need to
remain strong and engaged with our families and our youth. I
was so concerned about being clear as to what God laid on my heart
- that I wrote out every word.
hope this message encourages you. If you would like to hear the
message, it is available as a CD. Just get a hold of me. I
believe God helped with this one.
John Wesley and
In 1987 we were involved in traveling throughout the southeast
part of the United States working to encourage believers in about
a dozen cities from Mississippi on east through North Carolina. I
was reading a lot from John Wesley's life at that time and
inspired by his heart, we wrote a short summary of
what Wesley taught about good behavior. Proper Christian behavior
for believers, for small group leaders, and for pastors.
words will encourage.
Memory Verse Materials
Memorizing passages of the Bible can equip you to be well prepared
for any situation. Memorization is useful in fighting temptation,
guarding doctrine, encouraging others and counseling. Although it
is a challenging discipline, it bears eternal fruit.
Steve Nelson has put together this twenty page handout that
includes a number of excellent memorization tips as well as all
kinds of verses for memorizing, beginning with a set of PGT
Tough Talk about Teen Ministry
While many of us are not directly involved in teen ministry, we
are all heavily involved in parent ministry. It is our
responsibility as fathers and mothers to train our youth.
Therefore, it is crucial that we be significantly involved in
providing ongoing, hands-on direction to our teens’ youth
Josh McDowell, who has probably spoken to more college students
about Christ than any other man alive, is simply adamant about
this. “I would fire all of the church youth pastors in this
country,” he said. “Form a dads committee. Then rehire those same
youth pastors to work for the dads. And help train and equip our
youth, under the fathers’ guidance and supervision.”
would encourage you men to prayerfully read through this six-page
article and ask yourself just what God would have you do.
The Beginnings of American Methodism
is an older book. Only eighty pages long. But it is an amazing
description of young men attempting to do great things for God.
This book is filled with great stuff. Incredible testimonies of
heroic men. It is worth your time to print it off and read through
the whole thing. (~300 kb)
little faith, a little money, but God . . .
gave and gave and lived on a shoestring and yet never lacked. It was
really a slam-dunk and a fairly easy thing to do and an easy way to
few years later something changed. We had a baby!
now I had to begin to think about my responsibilities of being a
good provider and planning ahead and maybe being a little more
At this time, with a brand new, four-month-old son,
God taught me a lesson concerning money that I have never
"Do you know
why children misbehave? We have to recognize that sometimes our
children misbehave because their characters are flawed just like
ours, and it's our job as parents to help them to recognize, and
guard against, the flaws."
"experts" may not want to talk about anything as unfashionable
the idea of a child having a flawed heart."
Hart, in this excellent column lays out what Kansas State
University, the University of Minnesota, and other experts feel are
she shares the truth
awhile, not too often, but once in awhile, we might be called upon
to write our children and coach them - from a distance. I usually
write a kid a letter this long, but my college freshman had
expressed some concerns that he didn't have enough to offer some of
the guys he has been working with. The topic is discipling others.
Awaits a Prodigy, and Assist Goes to Her Father
father and his daughter is a very interesting relationship. It
might seem so much clearer with a boy. Oftentimes we wonder how
strong we should be with our girls. They are, "Sugar and spice
and all things nice," so when and how can you strongly challenge
them? Here is an excellent story
from the New York Times, on
how one dad did it.
Are We Still Dreaming, Dads?
recent Faithwalkers conference Tom Short exhorted us all to dream.
He asked us, “Just what are you dreaming? Are we dreaming big
dreams? Dreams that will honor God?”
Dads need to dream. Dads need to have big dreams. Dreams that make
our wives and kids just a little afraid, and just a little excited.
Our kids need to feel, deep down in their soul, that they are part
of a family that is involved in great things. Great dreams start
with us – dads!
Let me tell you about a father who had a dream. I heard his story
awhile back and recently asked him to write it down, to encourage
every one of us to keep on dreaming. And to not be swayed from our
We Have Rebuilt Iraq in 2003
following describes what has been accomplished in Iraq, since we
liberated the country from that despot. As men we are all
involved in building. As Christian men, we hate grumbling and
long to see progress.
What the United States has built into that country, the progress we
have seen happen there, in Iraq, is very encouraging. This
article was written by Lt. Col. Scot S. Seitz, on Monday,
December 1, 2003
your family to a movie for Him
dads just have to "grab the reins" and carve out
time for our families to take action in the Gospel. Here
is a great opportunity for every dad to lead their wife and
kids in a simple step that might reap eternal rewards.
And it involves one of my favorite actors - Mel Gibson !
of the Two?
while back a fellow dad came up to me and asked, “Rick, how do
know if I have my boy’s heart?” He was probably
thinking about the Proverb. The one where we might tell our
offspring, “Give me your heart, my son.”
And whether we actually tell our children this or not, we are
wondering - Do we have their heart? It is an honest, anxious
kind of question. Often we might be a little haunted to think
about this proverb. Because we wonder. .
Lewis on Roles in Marriage
chapter six of his classic book Mere Christianity, Lewis wrote: "Something
else, even more unpopular remains to be dealt with. Christian wives
promise to obey their husbands. And in Christian marriage the man is
said to be the "head." Two questions obviously arise here.
1. Why should there be a head at all - why
2. Why should it be the man?"
Here is what C.S. Lewis wrote and his words
are still very much apropos today.
We all Want
Barna is a Christian researcher and statistician. He and his
office staff have been involved for over ten years in studying the
health of American Christianity. Recently I read some
interesting conclusions they have published on exactly what
Christian parents want in terms of the character development of our
kids. These summaries are based on interviewing hundreds of
evangelical churches and thousands of parents. I was
encouraged that these parents want the same things that you and I
|| I'm Going, Buddy!
sixteen year old nephew, Jacob, wrote the following poignant story
of seeing his cousin killed, right before his eyes. It is
a story of faith. It is faith-building and Jacob has
shown amazing courage. His story is an excellent presentation
of the gospel.
|| Preparing for a Parenting Seminar
and fears for our kids remains a great issue in our communities and
non Christians still tend to look to the church for answers.
Here are several action points to help you prepare for your upcoming
seminar. Some are simple, practical things to consider and
some deal with the
spirit of these seminars. We have had the
privilege of speaking in over sixty churches and delivering these
talks and believe that they have been used by God to encourage
hearts and to encourage willpower in parents, across this country.
Here they are:
|| An Excellent Teen
Resource List for Fathers
we are hoping to "light some fires and kick some tires"
in the hearts of our dads to be more involved in the spiritual
instruction of our youth, then we had better equip them. If we
are going to encourage dads to teach, then we ought to provide these
kinds of good, practical helps and youth curriculums for them to
use. Here are some of the best that I have seen used in a
number of churches here in the Northwest.
Dads need to Teach
can be intimidated when they think of speaking to our youth. I
am not talking about a certain kind of gift mixed that we might fear
is required for youth ministry. All fathers can teach their
children. And must! Usually fathers
are the first to
notice those great, big, character weaknesses that represent over
90% of what a teen needs to be paying attention to, if they are ever
going to grow up in Christ. This article is a kick in the
butt, to get involved !
the most difficult thing a father could imagine is the loss of one
of his children. To bury a child -
this has to be the most incredibly difficult challenge that God
would ever place before a dad. My own brother faced this
challenge and God has helped him. If you would like to know how a Christian father can bury a son, I would invite you to
look at this article. Rodd and Melissa have taught us all.
time I have heard Zig Ziglar speak, he has blessed me. So
when this article came across my desk, we immediately wanted
to make it available.
Here is an excerpt from this short letter
to his son - "As you know, I do not believe in the "double standard" and
am appalled at the thought
that some parents are of the opinion that it's permissible
for their sons to get involved in premarital sex but not right for their daughters.
Of course, the Bible says that marriage is the only condition where sex is permitted.
As you might recall, I pointed out that it was
definitely best for you
and for her to be very careful in your relationship.
I specifically shared with you the belief that premarital sex was not in the
best interests of either of you.
There are many reasons for this besides
the fact that God says "no."
There are practical reasons, Son, and
I would like to cover a few. . . "
is a member of The Rock in Fort Collins. This is her story.
"When I was five years old my parents
divorced. Divorce is such a common word in our society today that I feel like
people have forgotten how tragic it can be for both parents and children. I carried
the pain and memories from my childhood all the way into my teenage years and
spiraled into a life of self-destruction. When my father's military career led
us to Ankara, Turkey, on an assignment that would last through my high school
years, trouble was soon in coming. I was an angry teen who carried her emotions
on her sleeve. I was blunt, tactless, and down right rude at times. What did
I owe anyone? The world had given me nothing but pain."
Victoria of England, while pinning England's highest award
on a foreigner, asked Helen Keller, "How do you account
for your remarkable accomplishments in life? How do
you explain the fact that even though you were both blind
and deaf, you were able to accomplish so much?" In
this article, read her answer, and never lose heart.
Bible is Truly an Amazing, Unique Book
excellent article by Dr. Edward Burgess. Here is a portion
- "Johann von Goethe, poet and dramatist observed, "I
read all kinds of books, but the Bible stands alone because it
reads me." The renowned Mark Twain admitted, "Most
people are bothered by the passages of Scripture which they cannot
understand, but for me, I am troubled by the passages that I
you know where you're going?
brief paper was written by Billy Graham, one of the greatest
evangelists in the history of God's church. Here is a portion
of his text. "We are each on a road, a highway. It's
a journey of life. And we're seeking guidance. Everywhere
you look in newspapers, in magazines
and on television you see
people searching for guidance--guidance in relationships, guidance
in social problems, home problems, financial problems. We
are looking for a map."
mother went to the Emperor Napoleon to ask for mercy for her
He had committed some breach of the French law. The emperor
replied, "Madam, this is the second time the boy has offended. "Justice
requires that he should die."
very good preacher named Crawford Loritts was once invited to
a week-long, middle of the summer, revival tent meeting held
in a field near a little town in western Iowa - many years ago. God
used him to touch my family. I think he was the only black
man in that whole county that week. Here is a short piece by
him about "the dash" in every one of our lives.
to Believe the Best
the tent, the doctor mixed the potion and handed the cup to Alexander
to drink. At that very moment a soldier burst into the
tent with a letter
from Alexander's top military captain who
was out serving with the soldiers at the front line. The note
said that Alexander's doctor was involved in a plot to assassinate
him by poison! The doctor didn't know what the note said. . . "
oil painting was of a wide river lined on both sides by cottonwoods.
There was a violent summer thunderstorm going on. The wind was
viciously whipping the trees back and forth. Black clouds were
down over the river, with jagged lightning forking the
sky. And in the center of the river, buffeted by the howling
wind and waves, was a cattle barge of all things. . .
Out of the Doldrums
am told that real pearls must be often worn, to remain lustrous. If
they are stored away for long periods of time their glow begins
to fade. Pearls must have regular contact with human skin
to remain attractive. Unused pearls grow dull.
What a perfect illustration for the proper use of our faith. Faith
be used, not left on the mantle like some dusty, old trophy.
we think that something is amiss if we aren't in charge, if we
aren't calling the shots. We think that we aren't growing
in leadership if
we aren't always the leader. Look more closely
at your own situation and you might find as Joshua found out,
that you are growing in leadership as you learn to follow the
men that God has put over you.
God While at Work
Hendricks has said that, "The three greatest days in
a man's life are the day he is born, the day he is born-again,
and the day he comes to grips with why he was born and born-again."
And fundamental to understanding why we were born and born-again,
is to know how our work fits into His eternal purpose for our lives.
A Learner? Brother?
take care how you listen; for whoever has, to him shall more
be given; and whoever does not have, even what he thinks he
be taken away from him." - Luke 8:18
In John Wesley's churches, the early Methodists
had an unusual
habit when they met together. What they did seems ordinary
in those days it was very shocking to the clergy of England. . .
They Hear Us Gladly?
I was younger, my Mom once asked me why I sounded so angry
all the time. She said that I sounded like I had a chip on
my shoulder, even when I was talking about my faith. She
wondered why I was so annoyed, about life. I was humbled
and a little ashamed by her observation. Sometimes as
dads, we think that our primary mission in
life is to always
point out what's wrong with this world."
God is in Charge of the Harvest
are we praying for and asking our Lord to save? Have we given
up on someone? God is not intimidated by men or women that are
years of age. They can be 90 or 100. God has been around
a lot longer
and He knows how to get thru and speak to a tough,
old heart and make it new again. Don't give up, Christian!
Even if you need to pray for fifty years!
parent desires that their children go on in the faith. We
are happy when we know that they have embraced Christianity with
their whole heart. The only way this can be accomplished
is through the careful cultivation of our own hearts - as fathers. Kids
can read our hearts. We can not guide them, where we have
not gone. We can not give them, what we do not have."
fifty years Grandpa and Grandma not only lived together as
man and wife, but she worked closely beside him all day in
their "mom and pop" grocery store. It was a
warren of activity for the neighborhood.
that troubles us, is but for a moment.
that pleases us, is but for a moment.
only is important, which is eternal."
that old, Doonesbury cartoon where the boy has just graduated
from college and is not especially eager to get a job? His
dad meets him with a three-foot-long, detailed bill of the
total, running cost to raise him for the previous 21 years. The
father looks older and a little tired and just a little exasperated. The
bill is for almost $400,000.00!
The young man looks down the long list
of carefully recorded expenses, then raises his eyes and asks, "Pop, will
you take a check?"
Fit For A King
may be more verses in the Bible on parenting than we might think. Ruling
a country and parenting may not be that different. They
have very similar challenges. Written by Jay Yousling,
this paper looks at seven parenting principles taken from Proverbs
29 that will help rule countries
and run homes. An excellent
resource for raising up future princes and princesses. (2
Meg in size)
Another Dad Stood By Me
it is stolen, Rick, you would be once again, on foot." I
thought about what he said, but never changed my ways and sure
enough, one afternoon I propped that old bike right outside
the campus bookstore, without locking it up, to quick run inside
for a purchase. It was surrounded by shining, new, ten-speeds,
as it always was, and I was sure it would be overlooked by
any larcenous eyes that might be hanging around.
It wasn't. I ran back out and it was gone!
Dad! We're Watching
cannot remember the person who said, "God's greatest
Christians have always been the merriest-hearted," -
but I believe it! You can't communicate what you don't
have. Our message as fathers to our families must be faith-filled,
joyful, and chock-full of light. Sometimes I think we imagine
that our message as dads should be one of doom and sacrifice. And
we then wonder why so few of them respond to it? Or even
be with us?
Miss the Spirit
a commencement exercise a few years ago, a student who was graduating
with honors, leaned over the microphone as he was awarded
diploma and said, "I came here to find some purpose in
life. I have learned nothing to this end." Then
he tore up his diploma and walked away. A mental health
survey done on several Midwestern college campuses came up with
the following statistic: 78 percent of the more than 8,000
students surveyed said that the most important problem they face
is "Finding purpose and meaning to life."
Breath and a Fresh Marriage
last but not least, if you still feel that you are missing out
on the ultimate in a great marriage, and you feel that marriage
has to be more than fresh breath and dry underarms, you may be
a good candidate for my Sure-Fire, Never-Fail, Often-Overlooked,
Top-Secret Ingredient for a Truly, Happy Marriage.
for a Newly Commissioned Officer
you asked me if I would write down one of the main lessons I
have learned over the years, as a pastor, I did not hesitate.
You asked that if I had to do it all over again - would I change
anything? Yes. Here is my
Posts and Young Men
slapped the fence post. Maybe it was my chance to get even
for all of the sweat and aching muscles that corner post had
caused. And maybe a little left over resentment towards dad. But
still it bit me back. The vibration from my slap seemed
to run from my hand, up my arm, and all the way down to my
toes. That old post was still as solidly set as the day
was first tamped down."
and Four-Legged Sheep
the Bible there are over 280 direct references to sheep and many
related passages and almost three-quarters of these passages
are figurative. The Lord has used this topic of sheep hundreds
of times to
So whether you care much about the creatures
or not, there is a lot we can learn. Remember, David was taken from the
sheepfolds to shepherd Israel after he had learned these same kind of principles.
between Leaders / between Fathers
your face I talk to you with utter frankness; behind your back
I talk about you with deepest pride." - 2 Cor.
7:4 Is there always honesty?
Men can handle the
honest truth. Christian men filled with the Spirit, that
Jack Nicholson in that famous movie scene
snarled, "You can't handle the truth!" But I think
his statement has no place between two Christian brothers. We can handle
the truth. And it is the only right way to speak to one another.
Good Questions from Parents
are three: 1. My kids frequently push and hit each other. How
much should I get involved or just let them 'work it out themselves'
? 2. Our two-year-old gets a lot of attention from the
whole family. Seldom does it seem to be enough. He often
does destructive things when he doesn't get enough attention.
What should we do? 3. There are times I discipline my kids
when I am angry. I yell at them and scold and nag them. My
parents did this all the time and I hate it. What should
As an added bonus, we have some great cartoons included !
to Raise Confident, Beautiful Daughters
other day my senior in college told me that I ought to write
an article on how to raise courageous, beautiful daughters. We
were driving to some place, and I suggested that she write out
what exactly she meant. So she did!
Here are her thoughts and basically - here's the article. Thanks,
John Wayne Found Christ
think the following will encourage you. It talks about
John Wayne's story, his testimony, his decision for Christ. I
read it the other day in one of my Ag magazines. I was
so blessed and encouraged by it that I wanted to give his story
a wider audience. The author was a Hollywood stunt man
who worked alongside "the Duke." "But
as many as received Him, to
them He gave the right to become
children of God, even to those who believe in His name." -
Way that you Choose
choices is a big part of the thrill of living. I don't
hold much to a wishy-washy attitude towards whatever life throws
at you. Because life doesn't really throw anything at us. It
is God who is doing the pitching, and what He likes to throw
are 'choices'. I have heard Christians say, "Well,
whatever will be, will be. God is in charge." They
say this in an almost fatalistic tone. What will really
be is what we choose.
for their Courage
a deep-seated, free and easy, God-motivated confidence, shape
your entire outlook on life? Are we fierce in courage? It
sounds almost hard to relate to. Let's put it another way. Does
fear or concern or anxiety daily enter into our decision-making
processes, our thoughts, our dreams of the future? This world
needs men of courage. Men who know what they believe and
are willing to stand up for it.
and Calves and God's Ear
the Lord's hand it not so short that it cannot save, neither
is His ear so dull, that it cannot hear."- Isaiah
59:1 It was the middle of July, very hot
and very dry, and it was time to vaccinate and brand all the
calves. So one morning, with some of us in pickups and
most of us riding horses, we drove all 600 cows, with their
600 calves trailing at their sides, down towards the working
corrals near the watering tanks at the bottom of the section
of pasture land...
of the Father
humorous piece, originally printed in The Atlantic Monthly. The
two-page article concerns a father, his young children, mealtimes
and his many and sore vexations. Biblical, King James in
style. I laughed out loud, as I think you will.
Mother of the Wesleys
think I have been blessed by God in that I found a "hard-headed",
woman - thirty years ago. And she agreed to marry me! She
is my own, sweet, ' battle axe,' and I say that affectionately. Here
is another hard-headed woman and here is how she kept her home.
In a letter to her son, John, she writes,"No one can,
without renouncing the world, in the most literal sense, observe
my methods. There are few, if any, that would entirely
devote over twenty years out of the prime of their life, in hopes
to save the souls of their children, which they think may be
saved without so much
ado . . . "
to a Difficult Man
smart man, daily recognizes the incredible qualities found in
the woman he has chosen to live with. This article details
the rich, fruitful life of the woman who stood beside Jonathan
Edwards. "Though he was an absent-minded father,
he gave his children another important thing: complete confidence
that their parents loved each other. Sarah sat next to
her husband at the table, and he treated her with great courtesy. She,
in turn, leaned on him."
Measure of a Boy/Girl
two-sided paper is the second of two handouts that we use in
our weekend, parenting workshops. God has blessed these
times to strengthen parent's hearts. Here we list eight
character qualities we seek to build into our younger children
and another seventeen qualities, that we have established in
our teens by the time they leave home.
A key phrase - "The greatest need
for successful parents is to have strong ___________ and strong ___________." You
are invited to join us at a workshop for the answers and my reasons why.
Workshop/ First Handout
five-page, handout is one of the two major handouts that we
our six-hour, parenting workshops. We work through
an overview and then jump into a whole host of specifics during
our time. If you would ever like to fill-in-the-blanks,
we would warmly invite you to join us at one of our
is hard! It takes incredible courage. An incredible,
every day, kind of strength. And every parent can use
encouragement in the work.
In fact, I have yet to meet
a single Christian who just couldn't handle any more encouragement
in their role as a parent.
The following ten questions touch on the
kind of issues we deal with in our Parenting Seminar. They form a Frustration
Men Need to Meet with other Men
need to lift up our eyes from our own work and remember that
we are all on the wall together. Even if our individual
place is so far apart, that we can't quite see each other,
we will still put down our trowels, travel and sometimes travel
a long ways - just to pray. We come together because
we need too. We are together in this business of advancing
God's Kingdom. We are not alone. We are together
in this business of raising the next generation. We are
not alone. And we need to remember this. So we
sacrifice to travel and pray together."
The Most Out of the Weekend
is 8:00 a.m., Saturday morning. Your extra hour of snooze is
disturbed by the neighbor's lawn mower, growling away. Downstairs
the TV is blaring out Saturday morning cartoons. An hour
or so later you stagger down to the kitchen for a cup of coffee
and the paper. By 11 a.m., you are finally dressed and ready
for - who knows what? Since you haven't planned much
of anything, you go back to the paper. . . If you want
to make your weekends count - when you are home with your family
- here are a few simple tips. These principles have helped
me wake up my weekends, for my wife, myself, and my kids."
Giving "Grace" to
Each Other - as Fathers
the very first, while lost, He gave us what we did not deserve. And
now as Christians, He keeps giving us what we don't deserve. If
we are going to imitate this kind of grace, in our speech with
other dads, other fathers, we have a tall order to try to fill. But
I am convinced that God wants us to copy Him and increase in
grace, in both our conversation and action towards our fellow
Cost of Leadership
all want to be more effective in our leadership with our families
within our marriages and towards our offspring. But
not all of us have seriously sat down and counted the cost
of attaining this kind of leadership." Becoming
a more effective leader in our home will cost us more than
any boss or company will ever ask of us. Believe it!
Must Men Pray?
knew that winning came only through conditioning; and for Christian
men I believe the same thing is true. Fathers are conditioned
by God and strengthened in their soul through prayer; for without
prayer we're not in shape to take the victory God wants for
us." In this article we spend some time talking
about the role of intensity in our private prayer.
She Had To Do
incredible story of a young girl who took a stand in school and
showed tremendous courage. Courage is not just for the
big and strong. At the very moment when she needed the
most strength, she said, "Today I am going to find out
who my real friends are." - by Bill Sanders.
Courage and a Spirit of Sacrifice into our Wives
years ago my wife and I boarded a school bus at 10 p.m. on
a Friday night to go to a Christian conference in Alabama. Neva
and I were in one seat and right ahead of us sat another couple. At
that time we did not have any children, but this other couple
was expecting a baby. As the long night of bumping down
the road continued, the four of us talked. There was
a lot about his lifestyle and discipline that spoke to me during
that trip. And his wife not only followed, but followed
him cheerfully. She was not simply a spectator to his
ministry, but ably took a vital part in it."
Wildness is Called For
wrote, "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but
against principalities, against powers, against the rulers
of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness
in high places." We are all wrestlers, in one
way or another. Here are several stories from the last
two years as we have cheered our wrestler. If you have
a son or daughter who
competes in any way, (and they all do),
this article might encourage you.
Strength of a Man's Will - Theodore Roosevelt
a campaign stop in Milwaukee on the evening of October 14,
1912,a deranged, out-of-work bartender emerged from the crowd
and shot Theodore Roosevelt in the chest at point-blank range. Staggered
by the impact of the bullet and the shock of the injury, the
great man nevertheless righted himself." An
excerpt from the book, Carry a Big
Stick . An
amazing story of the power of a man's determination, a man's
Moms Have Lost Authority
often poll my audiences . . .One such poll involves asking, "How
many of you grew up with a mother, who, without raising her
voice or threatening you in any overt manner, could strike
terror into your heart?" Always a clear majority
raise their hands." Dads, it is our duty to
guide our children to carefully respect their moms. And
on the second page of this article by John Rosemond, I include
a humorous, but true paragraph by Ruth Bell Graham's on child-raising.
Pain, No Gain
of children is clearly taught in the Scriptures. But sometimes
we can get a little confused on the subject. Here is a
quote from the article by Douglas Wilson. "Spanking
cannot be done 'pro forma'. Going through the motions will
do nothing except to convince both you and your kid that obedience
to the Scriptures accomplishes nothing. After all is
done, you will say that "we tried that and it didn't work."
times, a father will ask me, "Just tell me straight, Rick. What
exactly do you insist on, when it comes to your own teens? What
are some practical habits that you always go back to, while
training your sons and daughters?"
Well, here goes. There are only three things
that I insist upon,
when it comes to both my daughter's and my son's - growth
and progress in the faith.
And all three of these habits help to "position" my
Them through the Traps
scene caused a chill to trickle down my back. On an outdoor
stage in Denver, Colorado, with fifty thousand Promise Keepers
watching intensely, a fifteen-year-old boy-blindfolded and
barefoot-began stepping cautiously toward a dangerous obstacle
course filled with a dozen steel animal traps." If
you haven't read this one-page story, you need to do so, right
from the Fire
leaders in each of our families, we can all identify with Paul
when he spoke of the burden of people. Nothing brings
us more happiness than to see the people that God has entrusted
to our care - happy and growing in the Lord. Nothing
concerns us more than when we see people tired in spirit. But
how do we light up their hearts? How do we then lead
them? Our families may seem at times, to be kind of soggy
and listless. What can we do to see them fired up? What
can we do to fire ourselves up? "
Elliot wrote, "The best thing a woman can do for a man is
to be a woman." Another woman wrote, "Women once
had a great power for good. . . then they decided that they wanted
to be like men." Martin Luther wrote, "Let the wife
make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry
to see him leave." I did not want to write this letter
for only my wife. I think that we each need to shield our
wives from unspoken expectations placed on them in the church.
Importance of Pastors Modeling a Strong Family
our families are on display. For good or ill. We
all recognize the pressure this brings; but my prayer
is that we will see the opportunity we have to display a pattern,
a model for our people to follow. They will not go further
than the example we set with our families. So what should
our example look like? And how do we get there? Here
are a few thoughts from some of my correspondence over the
last few years."
a string of "involvement's" and "break-ups" help
or harm our youth in their ability to commit? Is a romantic
investment in a person who is not your spouse or going to be
your spouse a worthwhile endeavor? Is romantic involvement
an acceptable expression of agape love for the Christian young
man or woman? Does dating promote or hinder purity, godliness,
and selflessness? These are the questions that a
fellow dad, Pat Sokoll answers in this excellent two-page article.
Measure of a Boy
following is a list of the character traits that we have built
into our children. The Measure of a Boy are traits
that we want planted by the time they are twelve. The character
traits listed for a Young Man need to be established before
they leave the home. This is what we are working on.
Days of Prayer for Our Family
are a week's worth of character traits that we have prayed for
our children. It says that Job would get up early and pray
for his children and that it was his regular practice. We
also have included seven practical goals which we have sought
to establish in each of their hearts. And I believe, by
God's grace, He has accomplished this.
Way of a Friendship
Bears" need friends. Fathers need friends. Every
male needs other men - for the journey. In this article
I talk about the importance of shared vision, much time spent, and pledged
covenant love in developing friendships between men. Jonathan
and David's friendship is examined.
Leadership in the Home
man is directed by God to take responsibility for the leadership,
provision and protection of his wife and children. Although
his wife works alongside him in managing a home and raising
a family - the burden does not fall on her. It rests
on him." Sometimes it just helps a
man to have
a simple job description.
I have used these all over the country. As
well as the article that follows - for our wives. They were written by a good
Submission in the Home
mature woman has the desire to yield to her husband and an
inclination to follow his leadership. . . A mature woman makes
it easy for her
husband to care for her." These
two sentences are the first and last, taken from this one-page
examination of a woman's role in the home.
Word Aptly Spoken
following is an excellent illustration on the power of
words in encouraging our loved ones, our wives, our children.
The encourager here
is a Catholic nun. The story
concerns a 3rd grade class she taught many years ago - in the
Brain or Her Heart?
the realm of Christian education, the dilemma constantly presented
is between "character" and "academics." In
the education of your children, take your pick - which will
it be? Do you want godly kids or do you want smart kids?" But
as the article clearly points out, our Lord wants us to gain
both, with every one of our children.
- the New Mantra
you can make yourself better in just one way, self-control
will do you more good than just about anything else - it helps
you in work, in your relationships and it'll help you stay
out of trouble." This short reprint from the
Minneapolis Star Tribune reminds us why self-control and discipline
are so important, in training our children.
Classic Poem for Young Men
you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue. . . " This
poem by Rudyard Kipling needs to be on a site like this. It
speaks to virture. It speaks to self-discipline. It
speaks to sometimes, "going it alone." Mandatory
memory work for young men.
Dads, Part 6
Dads have huge expectations for their kids.
Some Dads have no expectations for their kids.
Many Dads, sadly, just don't want to be bothered.
Fathers, I would strongly
encourage you to "hunker down" and stay the course. So
much hangs in the balance.
Dads, Part 5
do I mean by discipline? "No!" is what I mean. There
is power in "No." There is wisdom and strength
in believing in the "No's." The Bible is filled
with "No's." They are general, simple and easily
understood. And God gives them to us in big doses, page
after page. Eight out of the ten commandments are "No.""
Dads, Part 4
smiled at my friend's joke, 'When they were little, I
dreamed that they would be champions for Christ. Now that
they are sixteen, I will settle if they are just law-abiding
citizens.' But he doesn't settle for this. I
won't settle for this. And none of us can afford to settle for
Dads, Part 3
the movie the daughter was fighting her mom and the mom was
hesitant to impose her will. Should she pursue or back
off? In an important scene, our cowboy hero turns to
the mother and instructs her. Even though the daughter
was fighting her mom, he tells the mom,
her turn you away."
Dads, Part 2
years later I am not as concerned about the world or the devil,
when it comes to preparing my kids for adulthood. I'm
not naive, I know that we live in a hostile society, but -
I am convinced that the first opponent to my child becoming
an able adult is their flesh. Laziness and a lack of
sustained effort will trip up more of our youth in their education,
than any other foe."
Dads, Part 1
wrote six letters scattered out over several years, to a group
of pastors that I am honored to be associated with. They
are also fathers and my friends. This is the first letter
we wrote to them on "winning" with each
and every one
of our children.
story by Dr. John Corts, past president of the Billy Graham Organization.
It is a story from his teen age years, helping out at his grandfather's
farm. He talks about the importance of finishing. Of 'staying
the course.' Completing the task.
Help Me! The Todd Beamer Story
don't think we're going to get out of this thing. I'm going
to go out on faith." It was the voice of Todd
Beamer, the passenger -- a Wheaton College graduate -- who
said, "Let's roll!" as he led the charge
the terrorists who had hijacked United Flight 93 on
for President Bush!
letter was written by Lindsey Yeskoo, the wife of Paul Yeskoo,
a Christian Foreign Service Officer serving in Shanghai. She
details her experience of meeting the President when he was in
China while back.
It under lines why we need to be faithful
in praying for the President in particular - and all our national
Dad's All Important Role
quote, "Mom, you were always the one giving me the law
and giving out the standards. . . Dad never seemed to have those
standards." Then the dad spoke up and said to his
daughter, "I did have those same standards, it was just
that your mom . . . spoke them." Dad
had the standards, but didn't speak them. I wonder why?
Model of Teen Ministry in the Local Church
are five parts to our plan that cover with "all the bases." These
five parts are simple and effective. The plan is carried
out by our upper classmen. And the leadership of these
upper classmen is shared by our Dads. Just as I believe
in Moms being the primary teachers of five year olds, so I believe
that Dads should be teaching the fifteen year olds.
The Price Father's Pay
good editorial by the columnist Mark Patinkin. He talks
about the hard choices we make, every day, between our careers
and our kids. A quote, "It's the crux of the 40ish-male
dilemma: Wanting more from career, but worrying about the
price you pay as a father."
we hope our kids will honor us, then we must "example" it,
first towards our own parents. In this article I share
a few stories from my own teen age years, "Halfway through
the race, I knew I could beat him. It was actually kind
of scary, so I slowed down. (I had never beaten my father at
anything.) But he wouldn't hear of it. We raced again.
. . "
of a Boy's Life
recently wrote a book on bringing up boys. He was interviewed
by our Rocky Mountain News on why he wrote it and the
Q & A, is very encouraging. A quote, "Boys
are under a great deal of stress today. They are not doing well."
editorial from the Wall Street Journal written after 9/11. One
quote from the article, "We are experiencing a new respect
for old fashioned masculinity, a new respect for physical courage,
for strength and for the willingness to use both for the good
God Active Today?
short stories about our dad, Clay Whitney, and his impact on
his five boys. He taught us much. How to live and
how to die. And I think these stories will bless you.
couple of jokes, "Father's Day always worries me. I'm
afraid I'll get something I can't afford." - Bill
Cosby. And a couple of excellent, heart-warming illustrations
from Billy Crystal and others.
gave each of us an all-encompassing mission for life. How
do we go about giving this vision to our teenage sons and daughters? A
transcript from a message I shared at a parenting conference
in Cedar Rapids, Iowa.
this paper, which was taught at our National Pastor's Conference, we
reviewed the five standards that we have sought to follow as
a movement - within our families. Specifically those practices
which are critical to building healthy, outreach-minded, truly
More Encouraging Words
rest of my personal cache of quotations. They will inspire,
encourage and challenge you - guaranteed! These men will
speak to your heart. One man to another.
second section of my gathered quotations, collected for fathers,
husbands, men, and Christian leaders across the church.
Few Encouraging Words
first part of my collection of quotations, gathered up over the
last thirty years. Some will make you laugh, some will
make you cry. Everyone will make you think.
Your Kids Right
our children can at times be the most alarming thing we do. It
can unsettle us. How do we go about building a trust relationship
within their hearts and at the same time establishing rules?
the short book of the same title. Here are a few of the better
quotes. Such as, "I can run the country or
control Alice (his daughter), I can't do both." -
God In All Things
ago my life changed when we had our first baby. I started
thinking about being a better provider and planning ahead. And
at that very time God taught me a lesson about money that I have
never forgotten. He did something kind of unusual and very
challenging to my soul.
Life Is Like a Coin
this article, I hoped to, in a small way, capture some of the
spirit and thinking that guided us in our very first years as
a movement. "Many of us lived in the same town,
went to the same college, and in a very similar way we all experienced
a brand spanking new, spiritual awakening. This is what
He imprinted us with."